Become your own Boss Babe!

"Every great dream begins with a dreamer. Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world.” -Harriet Tubman

In 2021 I opened my own small business , Rustic but Refined. From what started out as just a little side gig to make some extra income while I was laid off due to covid completely took off and became one of my biggest passions !! I love my business and I absolutely love what I do ! Not only does it let me release my creativity ,meet some amazing new people but it also lets me be my own boss! So today I wanna help you become your own boss babe! As a woman owned small business owner I think it is such a strong powerful feeling! So here are 5 tips to help you be a Boss Babe!

#1 BELIEVE – IT IS POSSIBLE!

“Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it.” -Steve Jobs

The beauty of your dreams begins within. Always keep your mindset positive( which nowadays can be hard). Believe in yourself and know in your heart that you will achieve it. When you commit to your dreams and believe they are possible for you your dreams will start to come true! Positive thoughts bring positive outcomes , negative thoughts bring negative outcomes ! Don't forget that! Same for the people you surround yourself with which I will touch base more in the next step !When you commit your thoughts and beliefs to that you begin attracting the necessary resources, people, and opportunities that will help you along your journey to make your dreams possible. Remember to trust your heart, only do what LIGHTS YOU UP, BE PATIENT , say YES to new opportunities, know it's ok to fail and hold a clear vision of what you’re wanting to create in your mind and heart and believe in it fully. One of my favorite quotes is Cupcakes are just muffins that believed in miracles ! So girl ... Be the CUPCAKE!!

#2 CLARITY – KNOW YOUR WHY!

“Clarity is the counterbalance of profound thoughts.” -Luc de Clapiers

Why do you wake up and do what you do? Who are YOU? What do you want for yourself and your life Get super clear on that ... so you can make right moves in the direction of your dreams.

Knowing your why is essential to following your dreams and having the life you desire to have ... or the thriving business you want. If you don’t know what you want how are you supposed to make it happen. This is your life. You get to decide. You get to write your next chapters ... your goals and your dreams... they can all come true , some you may need to work harder for some may just fall right into place but what is important is that you have a clear mindset of what you want for yourself and your future and know that YOU are the one that can make it happen ! Sometimes even writing them down can help , or make a vision board from there you can figure out what steps to take to help you get to exactly where you want to be and make it happen!

#3 ASK FOR HELP!

“Friends can help each other. A true friend is someone who lets you have total freedom to be yourself – and especially to feel. Or, not feel. Whatever you happen to be feeling at the moment is fine with them. That’s what real love amounts to – letting a person be what he really is.” -Jim Morrison

It’s totally ok (and even encouraged) to reach out to others for their support & input. Make sure you are sharing your dreams & passions with other like-minded and supportive girl bosses and friends/ family members ! Be surrounded by the people that support you and your business and you'll go far! As humans, we are naturally drawn to wanting to help others ( most of us anyway )! We don’t have all the answers, but if you’re willing to ask, the answer will make it’s way to you in some way , shape or form . I will admit this isn't the easiest one for me! I love giving back It is also one of my passions , I put others first all the time but I have the hardest time asking or receiving it back ! I guess that's the stubborn independent side of myself but one thing I learned is life can be ALOT especially when trying to grow a business , working full time , having a teen that keeps you very busy and of course just everyday life stressors ...... so it's ok to ask for help and you'll be amazed how much better you feel ! Kinda like a weight is lifted form you ! You must ASK and then you shall receive. If you don't ask the only person you can blame is you ! So trust me JUST ASK!

#4 DROP THE DRAMA!

“Don’t Make Assumptions. Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.” -Don Miguel Ruiz

Let go of people, beliefs, the past and anything else that is holding you back from blooming. Ever hear the saying "Your vibe attracts your tribe" ... well it's so true! As you create YOUR good vibes in the world, you will start to shake off what no longer positively helps you . Let it all go. That person or thing that made you so mad the other day ... LET IT GO ..... The look someone gave you in line at the store or work or the rude comment that was made ...... LET IT GO... Drama/Negativity drains our energy. If we’re going to create magic and miracles in our life, we must focus our good energy on what we want to create and NOT what we don’t want. This can make such a huge impact on your life and your business . I personally am a people pleaser again another fault of mine ! Well I guess it can be a good thing but at the same time it comes with complications but If your wanting to be your own BOSS BABE the drama gotta go the negativity has to go ! Live your life , Live your passion , focus on the people that bring the good out in you and make you wanna be that better person. If someone doesn't like it well....... LET IT GO ...... cause it's the life your wanting to create for YOU ! If you do that it will carry through your life and the lifestyle you wanna have and create! Then in turn this will allow you to be that same person in other peoples lives!

#5 Be Your best version !

“To improve is to change; to be perfect is to change often.” -Winston Churchill

Change is always happening whether you like it or not. Why is it that we are so resistant to change? Life is all about change .... Think about it ?!?! .... If the caterpillar resisted change, even though it can SEEM scary, then it would never fully reach it’s potential as a butterfly. RIGHT ?!?! So know that today you are the best version of yourself but that change is ok and growth is good ! So set you goal for that ! Think of it this way ... to be that better version you have to be .. you have to be who you are today to get there! So today tell a new story that represents the change you want to happen . When you introduce yourself to a new client, get dressed in the morning, when you look in the mirror before you leave for the day and before you step into the doors at work ... imagine your BEST self and then DO THAT / BECOME THAT .Stop waiting to wear the bright red lipstick or that pair of heels sitting in your closet that " you have nowhere to wear them to ", the over the top outfit that makes you stand out... . Stop waiting and do it . Stop waiting for someone else to give you permission to take a leap of faith or step forward , stop waiting to feel your worth and know your worth it . So take that leap of faith ... let the change and growth happen but still know that even through it maybe scary it will be worth it! You have already overcome so much and to do that you have to overcome fears and believe that for now your the best version of you but tomorrow if you trust and believe in it you can be an even better one!!

Now don't forget, I never said any of it would be easy its not .... It sure always isn't for myself! ... you will hit failures and bumps in the road .. you will have days your lose it and days you lost you way . And that is ok! Because remember all of those trials and tribulations make us who we are and help with our growth you just have to believe in yourself to overcome them !

So now it's you turn! I want you to go out and become your own Boss Babe and build you mini empire the way I believe you can! Take charge of yourself and your life and live out all your dreams!